1. Whenever you set sudden plans. I have to have my schedule mapped out forward of time. I need to know what I’m doing weeks upfront — or at the least twenty-four hours upfront. When you change our plans on the final second, or ask me to hang around proper now with out warning me forward of time, then you definitely most likely received’t see me. The shock goes to be an excessive amount of for me to deal with.
2. Any sort of socializing. You may take into account public talking fully completely different than making a cellphone name to order pizza or asking the waitress for extra ketchup — however for me, it’s just about the identical. Texting somebody goes to make me simply as uncomfortable as standing in entrance of a crowd. Although the extent of interplay is likely to be small, it’s nonetheless going to really feel like an enormous deal to me.
3. Uncertainty. Uncertainty of any form makes me uncomfortable. Earlier than I conform to go anyplace, I want as a lot data as potential. What ought to I put on? What does the parking state of affairs appear like? How early ought to I get there? What time is it going to be over? If I don’t know what to anticipate, I’m going to run by way of one million completely different eventualities and get upset about one million various things that most likely aren’t even related.
4. Whenever you break the principles. Since I hate unpredictability, I hate when folks break the principles — particularly since I’m by no means going to do the identical. When there are guidelines, I do know what to anticipate. I can plan forward. I do know what to do. However when somebody goes off script, I don’t know what to anticipate — and I’m not nice at considering on my toes.
5. Whenever you make a mistake. I would like different folks to love me, so I’m by no means going to level out once they damage my emotions. I’m by no means going to inform the hairdresser or the nail technician that the type isn’t proper. I’m going to reside with no matter occurs, even when it makes me depressing. I keep away from battle, even when it’s miniscule.
6. Whenever you change the plans on the final second. I’ve to arrange myself for social conditions. If we’re heading to a restaurant, I’m going to lookup the menu forward of time to select my meals, and I’m going to lookup instructions, so I do know the place to drive. Altering the assembly spot on the final second may not be an enormous deal to you, however it throws me off fully.
7. Whenever you level out my anxiousness. I’m not snobby or shy or quiet. I simply want some time to get warmed as much as new folks. And when you begin teasing me about how quiet I’m, I’m by no means going to heat as much as you. I’m going to need nothing to do with you.
8. Falling asleep to silence. I don’t love when my environment are too loud — however I don’t love full silence, both. I have to have one thing on within the background with a purpose to go to sleep at night time. In any other case, my thoughts goes to float to darkish locations. I have to hold myself distracted, so I don’t overwhelm myself with what-ifs.